What if trust erodes? What if the very people who should be caring for you are the ones causing harm? Here at Elder, we confront this painful reality.
Elder abuse is a crime. It is any act that causes harm to an older person. Elder abuse includes physical, psychological, and financial harm. Neglect is also a form of elder abuse. Most elder abuse is carried out by someone known to the older person. This could be a family member or even a friend. In many cases, the older person is dependent on the abuser. They rely on them for care or emotional support. This dependency makes it very difficult for victims of Elder abuse to come forward. They may delay telling anyone what is happening until the situation becomes critical.
Most older people are loved and cared for by their families. However, about one in ten will experience some kind of abuse. Older people who depend on someone else for their care are particularly vulnerable to abuse. Elder abuse is more likely to happen in families already experiencing conflict. It is also more common in families with a history of family violence. Drug or alcohol problems also increase the risk of Elder abuse. Sometimes, Elder abuse happens because the older person and their family do not understand the rights and responsibilities involved in formal legal roles. An example is enduring power of attorney.
Several organizations in the Wellington region are dedicated to helping those affected by Elder abuse. Wesley Community Action runs the Elder Abuse Response Service or EARS. EARS provides support, information, and advocacy. They work with elders and their whānau to create sustainable safety. Anyone 65 or older living in the greater Wellington area can seek help from EARS. A family member, friend, neighbor, or health professional can also contact the team on their behalf. In an emergency, always call 111.
WellElder provides specialist counselling for people aged 60 and over. This service extends to those 55 and over if they are Māori or Pasifika. Clients may attend on their own, as a couple, or with other family or whānau. WellElder offers up to six one-hour counselling sessions at affordable rates. Counsellors see clients at venues in Newtown, Johnsonville, Porirua, Paraparaumu, and Hutt Valley. If mobility is an issue, WellElder can arrange for counselling in clients’ homes. They also offer telephone or internet platforms such as Zoom.
Age Concern New Zealand also works for all older people. They offer national services, information, and health and welfare awareness programs. Age Concern coordinates vital national programs. These include Elder Abuse and Neglect Prevention services. They also offer Accredited Visiting Services for lonely and socially isolated older people.
Remember, if you suspect Elder abuse, don’t hesitate to reach out. It is important to seek support and ask for advice. Even if you are not sure that what you are seeing is Elder abuse, there is no harm in asking questions. These organizations would rather answer your questions before the harm gets worse. They are happy to talk with you by phone or meet with you at a time and place that suits you. They will listen to your concerns. They can discuss steps that could be helpful. This might include seeking advice or involving others who can be supportive. Elder abuse often goes unreported due to shame and stigma. We must break the silence and ensure that all older people live with dignity and respect.